What Does a Godparent Have to Do?
Becoming a godparent is an honour, but it can also feel like a big responsibility. If you’ve been asked to take on the role - or if you’re choosing godparents for your little one - you might be wondering: what does a godparent actually have to do?
The Traditional Role of a Godparent
Traditionally, godparents made promises during a christening or baptism to guide a child’s spiritual life. They stood alongside parents as witnesses and supporters of that important milestone.
For some families, this faith-based role is still central. But today, many parents choose godparents for reasons that go beyond religion.
The Modern Meaning
In modern life, being a godparent is less about formal duties and more about building a lifelong bond. A godparent is:
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A role model: someone a child can look up to.
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A supporter: someone to cheer them on through life’s ups and downs.
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A celebrator: someone who remembers birthdays, milestones and achievements.
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A guide: someone to offer advice and encouragement when it’s needed.
In short, it’s about being a steady, loving presence in the child’s life
Emotional and Practical Support
Parents often choose godparents who will be there not just for the child, but for the whole family. That might mean being a listening ear, lending a hand when things get busy, or simply showing up to celebrate special occasions.
It’s less about grand gestures and more about the small, consistent acts of care that build lasting memories.
What Godparents Don’t Have to Do
There are a few common myths worth clearing up:
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No legal responsibility - unless you’re named in a will, you’re not legally responsible for a child’s care.
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No financial obligation - it’s not about expensive gifts, but thoughtful ones.
The most valuable gift a godparent can give is their time and love.
Thoughtful Ways to Show You Care
Every godparent chooses their own way to nurture the relationship. Some lovely ideas include:
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Writing letters or keepsake notes as the child grows.
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Starting traditions - like an annual day out, or a special story shared together.
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Choosing gifts that last, such as personalised keepsakes that can be treasured over the years.
These gestures don’t just mark moments; they create memories that both child and godparent will cherish.
Being a godparent isn’t about formal duties or financial commitments - it’s about love, guidance, and creating memories that last a lifetime. Whether through shared moments, thoughtful traditions, or simple presence, the role of a godparent is to be there.
And sometimes, the smallest, most heartfelt gestures are the ones that mean the most.
Godparent FAQs
Do godparents have legal responsibility?
No. Being a godparent is a symbolic and supportive role. You only have legal responsibility if you are named as a guardian in a parent’s will.
Do godparents have to be religious?
Some families choose godparents for religious reasons, but many see it as a personal role of love and guidance rather than a faith-based one.
Can you have godparents without a christening?
Yes. Many parents choose godparents outside of a religious ceremony, simply as a way to recognise someone special in their child’s life.
How many godparents can you have?
Traditionally, children have two to four godparents, but there are no strict rules. It’s entirely up to the parents.
What is the main role of a godparent today?
To be a supportive, loving presence in a child’s life - celebrating milestones, offering guidance, and creating meaningful memories together.
Alternative Names for Godparent
Not every family chooses to use the word 'godparent'. Some prefer terms that feel more modern, personal, or inclusive. A few alternatives include:
"Guide Parent" – emphasising the role of guidance and support.
"Guardian" (ceremonial, not legal) – highlighting a protective, caring role.
"Mentor" – focusing on advice, encouragement, and being a role model.
"Supporting Adult" often used in non-religious naming ceremonies.
"Fairy Godparent" (Fairy Godfather / Fairy Godmother) – a playful twist that children often love.
"Special Person" a sweet, heartfelt name for a godparent that honours the special relationship.
Have you been asked to be a godparent? Congratulations, it's a special honour that can bring ongoing joy to both you and the child.